How to increase your chances of getting a girl

Disclaimer: This is based on my experience and my opinions. It may or may not work for you. However, my intention is to help you. Normally, I would not share something like this…(I’m serious)


  1. Don’t be a friend

If you are looking for more than friendship, don’t act like a friend. If you’re going to act like a good friend, don’t be surprised if the girl sees you as only a friend.

Based on my experience, Caucasian guys tend to have way more confidence than Asian guys. They tend to make their intentions obvious from the start; making it difficult for women to friendzone them.

For example: “I find you attractive, and I would like to take you out on a date.” “When I first saw you, I already knew. You’re the one I want.”

What does this mean?

He cannot be friendzoned because he was never a friend to begin with. You see?? Some guys think if they start off as friends, maybe eventually the girl will realize how great/nice/awesome/amazing he is, and date him later on.

Most of the time, that does not happen.

I would suggest, show interest from the start. Perhaps, you will have a better chance.

If you have developed a friendship for years, EVEN IF the girl would initially consider you as a potential, she might not want to risk everything you guys already have.

By the way, if you’re expecting something for being nice…then you’re not really a nice guy. It’s conditional. Don’t do it. Women hate it.


  1. Take control 

Stop waiting for something to happen. Most likely, your friend/the girl will not pursue you. If you are hoping she will message you to hang out one random day, you can wait forever.

If you want something to happen, then do something. Ask her to hang out? Message her?

However, you must realize that even if you do something, there’s a chance nothing will happen.

Without action though, you have no chance.

Note: Don’t ask her permission to hang out with you. That’s really unattractive. Ex. Would you hang out with me? (NO NO NO NO NO).


  1. Find out what she likes 

If you know what she likes, you can suggest doing that activity.

For example: If you know she likes snowboarding, suggest it. “My friends and I are going snowboarding ______. Would you like to join us?” *NOTE: This is assuming if you guys do not have the same circle of friends. If you are in the same circle, it probably wouldn’t make a difference.

She may or may not say yes. But if it’s something she enjoys, you have a higher chance of getting her to come out.

Remember, you have no chance if you can’t get her out. 


  1. Show her you can enjoy life with or without her 

Guys, girls can sense desperation from a mile away. If you’re constantly demanding or craving her attention, she will not value you very much (unless, she is also very emotionally dependent).

Make sure you’re actually doing something with your life. It is okay if you’re busy at times. Don’t be available 24/7.


  1. Get her curious

You can get her curious by saying things like, “I saw something that reminded me of you today.”

Or share an embarrassing story about yourself (in one line).

“Once a pigeon slapped my head. Guess how I reacted?”

The goal is to build more attraction and get her to look forward to your texts!!

Remember, women react emotionally. If you do not evoke any positive emotions from her when she sees your messages, it is not going to work. 

If you do all of the above and she still doesn’t seem to have a reaction, she is not interested. Move on. Don’t let a woman ruin your life. 

Note: Women typically want someone who can provide for them (either financially, emotionally, physically, or all 3). Do you know what she is looking for? If you possess the traits she values, then you have a much higher chance.

Feel free to share what worked for you down in the comments below!

P.S. Although it sounds cliché, always be yourself. Don’t pretend to be or change who you are for the sake of initial interest. If you do, the relationship is doomed to fail from the start. Too many people these days see an attractive girl/guy and go out of their way to make themselves seem like the optimal guy, and in the end lose who they really are. Although getting that one attractive girl is nice, at the end of it all, all you’ll really end up with is a trophy relationship. (credits to Dan!)

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