Feeling left behind

Hey readers!! LONG TIME NO SEE!!!! Do you miss me? :P (I hope the answer is yes). 

The other day, I had a deep conversation with a great friend of mine. She got a job offer at TESLA and I’m so proud of her! 

But when we were chatting, she wasn’t as optimistic as I thought she’d be. She was saying, “Grace, I’m going alone. I’m uprooting my life! I’m actually quite scared. I don’t know if I’ll be able to adjust.”

But I reassured her. I said, “If you don’t take this, I’m sure you’ll regret it more. I know it’s out of your comfort zone, but we only grow if you step outside our comfort zone. If you stay at your current job until retirement, you already know what your life would be like.” 

She replied, “I know. The reason why I applied was because I wasn’t at a good place last year. Seeing all my friends move on with their lives… getting married, buying homes, having kids, getting promotions… I just feel like I’m not going anywhere. You know? I know we shouldn’t compare, but I can’t help it.” 

I understood what she meant. My social media timelines are also filled with friends/acquaintances moving on with their lives. Some people I’ve gone to school with are now parents. Some have become business owners. Some seem to be travelling like they’re on vacation every three months. It is definitely hard to not compare ourselves with the versions others post online.

So, I’m here to help!!

Personally, it helps when you’re focusing on yourself instead. For example: Ask yourself what the ideal you would be like. Ex. The type of job that makes you happy, the type of lifestyle you want, and etc. Then, you need to work towards it. 

Nothing matters if you do not take action. I think we spend way too much time thinking about taking action instead of actually taking action.

In the past, I would always say, “Oh, I want to lose my stomach.” But I wouldn’t really work towards it with a measurable goal. 

This year, I told myself I’m going to make it happen. I want abs. And I’m going to get them.

I told myself I’m not going to complain about no progress until I’ve done at least 1000 burpees. So far, I’ve only done 245 as of Jan 20th, 2022. My goal was to do 30 per day, but because I’m so unfit, I’ve been in so much pain that I had to take a few days of rest in between. Nonetheless, I’m going to force myself to do them more frequently.

I’ve already noticed subtle changes, and I can see that my core has become a bit more firm. I know change takes time, and I will continue to work towards it.

So for those of you who feel left behind, give yourself a measurable goal and work towards it! If you want to earn more money, don’t say something like, “I’ll work more.” It needs to be SPECIFIC

Ex. If you want to start a side hustle, you can start off with, “I’ll spend 30 minutes a day working on it.” 

Make sure your goal is actually realistic. It’s definitely unsustainable if you tell yourself you’ll work 100 hours a week if you’re used to working 40. 

Change should be gradual so that it doesn’t feel that painful.

And always remember, NO PAIN NO GAIN. 

We tend to avoid doing the things that we ought to do the most. Perhaps, complete your difficult tasks first so you can feel a sense of accomplishment. 

Anyhow, I hope you guys enjoyed this. Don’t give up! Whenever you want to quit, at least try for X amount of time before you say it doesn’t work! Any time you want to learn something new, it’s going to require a lot of effort to see change. 

If you enjoy these posts, make sure you check out my other Grace Time posts or my personal blog at liveandlearn88.com!

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